Friday, January 16, 2009
Marriage and the Aging Feminist
Lori Gottlieb wrote an essay in the March 2008 edition of the Atlantic Monthly entitled, “Marry Him! - The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough” The premise of the essay is that it is a mistake for women to wait too long to get married.
Looking at Miss Gottlieb web site, you can see that she is a 40 something petite white girl. While she is still attractive, I bet she was quite hot in her 20s and early 30s. However, when she dated at that age, she never found a man that measured up to her standards. As such, she found herself pushing 40 without a man, or a baby.
Unfortunately, Miss Gottlieb decided to become an unwed mother. And she is just now realizing that raising a child without a father is not quite as glamorous as it is shown on TV and the movies.
So choosing a man based on love is no longer a requirement for her. She is looking for someone to help her with her bastard child. As she wrote:
Even women who settle but end up divorced might be in a better position than those of us who became mothers on our own, because many ex-wives get both child-support payments and a free night off when the kids go to Dad’s house for a sleepover. Never-married moms don’t get the night off.
Yikes. I am sure that paragraph will do wonders in catching a suitable man.
Of course, Miss Gottlieb is attractive enough to find many men willing to marry her. The problem is that her ideal of “settling” probably doesn’t include an auto mechanic from Mississippi. She still wants a handsome and rich man than can take her on fun trips across Europe. But that begs the question – why would such a man want to marry such a woman when he is in the position to have much younger and prettier options? Does a rich and handsome man really want to be looked as as a source of babysitting and future child support payments?