Thursday, January 1, 2009
PUAs are Nice Guys
In this video I explain how the Pick Up Artist (PUA) has the same premise as the Nice Guy.
A brief explanation of terms:
Nice Guy – A Nice Guy is a man that attempts to gain validation of his life through the approval of others (especially women). The typical Nice Guy will attempt to gain this approval through acting “nice”. A Nice Guy avoids confrontation and attempts to appease and pacify the women in his life.
The Nice Guy is scared to be his true self. He must always tailor his words and actions in an attempt to please others. Nice Guys tend to be frustrated in life and this frustration is manifested in passive-aggressive behavior.
PUA – A Pick Up Artist (PUA) is a guy that tries to manipulate women to gain sex. This typically involves creating an elaborate act (usually referred to as “game”) that specifies how a guy should talk, stand, eat, and walk in order to trick a woman into sex. As with a Nice Guy, the PUA gains his sense of self worth through the approval of women. The primary trait of a PUA is manipulation.
Integrated Man – An Integrated Man is a man who does not live for the approval of others. An Integrated Man strives to achieve his life goals independent of the approval of others.
An Integrated Man does not attempt to appease women for approval. An Integrated Man does not attempt to play a game in order to win the approval of a woman. An Integrated Man is comfortable with who he is and does not allow anyone to change him.